Changes can sometimes bring us to the ground on our knees and sometimes changes brings us more joy, happiness, abundance or love than we ever imagined yet change is not always easy. Recently, I’ve had a BIG change that opened my eyes in a way that I CAN now see clearly. I can see the Truth for what is is and act from a place of acceptance instead of fear. Who I thought I was and who I am becoming are coming more in sync than ever before, maybe because of my approaching birthday or because I’ve decided to believe in myself in ways i had not done before. Its easy to say I believe in myself, but how does that out picture in reality? It’s when you don’t settle for less from anyone and allow yourself to be seen and heard without fear of judgment or stares. It’s saying NO to demands of your time and energy to do what YOU choose, it’s being able to stand in faith when everything else seems in shambles, it’s listening to your intuition instead of following, It’s choosing to be around people who bring you up and are doing the same themselves instead of just talking about it or reading a few books, its owning your SH*T regardless and trusting the outcome. So change brings many things but most important it brings YOU back to YOU now how you CHOOSE to see it is up to you beloved and the glass is always full from how I see it. Just a thought…
Who are YOU? Not the you who is male or female, Latin or European, dark or light, daughter or son, but the you who is your Spiritual self, your “Isness”.
Why do we fear the unknown? The mystery of tomorrow scares us into submission controlled by the “Fear Monster”. The monster eats away at your true nature and corrodes the Spirit from hearing its guidance by instead listening to the voices of reasons why & “can’t” because of some past experience or situation. The monster within steals your happiness with its shame, blame, guilt games, unhealed & resentful – why – because our thoughts can push you down a murky path of self doubt, unworthiness and pain. Yet your heart urges you forward to transform, shift and heal and the two are in constant battle.
To reclaim your true self, to re-claim your dreams, heal your inner self and learn to love yourself again you must have BELIEF in YOU!!
B(eing) — Be yourself. There is ONLY one YOU!!
E(ffected) — Don’t be effected by circumstances, situations and conditions. The CAUSE + EFFECT = Emotions
L(ove) — Love ALL of YOU!
I(nsight) — In you is all the answers you seek.
E(volve) — Transform. Allow the YOU that wants to emerge out.
F(aith) — Trust in your Spirit to guide you by having faith in YOU!
When you have belief in you the fear monster cannot keep its grip on or in you. Give yourself permission to be who you are right now. Create a NO zone of judgment of yourself or others. Keep an attitude of gratitude. Let the history go. Leap before you look.
You have to begin sometime and why not NOW?
Excerpt from the upcoming book “Naked In Public- Keeping true by being YOU!” by Tonya Melendez, RScP, CYT
Recently, I experienced another death (transition I like to call it) and it changed me. My spiritual path & work as a teacher, healer and psychic medium allows me to speak to those who’ve crossed over so I’ve had experiences that teach me more than just about the world, but also myself. The changes I’ve experienced since this last death have opened me and my eyes in ways I can’t or couldn’t explain in simple ways.
Life affords us many opportunities to get to know others, but ultimately ways to know ourselves better. Sometimes the time it takes time to understand life’s lessons through challenges, obstacles or changes bring us to our knees only to bring us to whole other playing field, I’ve heard it said that sometimes the block/bump/blunder is the boost we need to put us in the right direction and this I know to be true.
The most important thing i recognize is it in HOW you choose to look at things, I find myself closing my eyes more and more to hear from my heart instead of my outer eyes. I see with different eyes the pains, fears and troubles around me, the world and keep my steadfastness knowing Who walks beside me now more than ever. I could complain, judge or condemn yet i chose to see with love because when i was in pain, hurting myself because i didn’t know what else to do I recognize it and remember once upon a time that was me.
I believe we experience many deaths and re-births in our lifetimes, but only if we are aware that in order for something to change we must let go and allow it. I find it fascinating often times people want things in life to change – relationships, finances, life yet are unwilling to change! It’s easier to remain the same, doing the same, and having the same than do something different. We often wish for a magic wand to come and save us, pray to God to help us, and expect another to heal us instead of taking the responsibility to do it for ourselves. This is what a rebirth is, death of the old, outdated and out worn.
In the more than 7 transitions I’ve experienced within the last year and as my birthday approaches, I am dying, The old me; filled with fears, doubts, worries and ‘why me’ is fighting hard to keep me the same yet like the mystical & mythical Phoenix I rise reborn and ready for the next new beginning, the next layer of who I thought I was to be peeled off, and the ME I’ve always wanted to be emerging. Once upon a time I couldn’t have ever imagined she would come to life yet here I COME!!